Moving in with your Partner
Great! Love is in the air… and now practicality is too. You need a home for the two of you. If one likes the others area, perfect. If you need to compromise follow these guidelines:
Who will spend most time at work? Better to be closer to this location.
Are you planning on kids? If the father will work and the mother will stay at home, the husband should get priority on being closer to work. Of course, if the wife is to return to work, whoever will drop the child off and collect from daycare/ nursery/ school is best served to be closer to work.
My friends, your friends? Rather than move in the middle of two areas where you each have friends or relatives, better to live in one of those areas and have the other partner travel to see their favourite people (just be understanding if you are the partner that gets to be close to your friends and family, and remember to keep them at enough distance to enjoy Your relationship first).
Compromise and Defiance! Each make a list of area qualities you ‘must have’ (e.g. be 10mins walk from a tube station) and area qualities you would ‘like.’ Use our neighbourhood guides to get ideas and help. Even look up your current neighbourhood here and realise what it is that makes it special and then create your list. Now think of things you really can’t live with. Absolute ‘No’s!’
Wittle down your lists until you each have 2 things you must have. A good neighbourhood will have each of these 4 elements (it’s likely you may have shared elements) and two other ‘nice to haves.’ More importantly DO NOT move to an area that includes one of your partners ‘No’ elements. Relationships are about compromise… you can do that with the nice to haves, even one of the ‘must haves’ but don’t ever go against something one of you hates… you’ll regret it.